My little one is now almost 22 months. How did that happen so quickly?
Two is still such a small number, but to me, my girl is my baby, but a baby no more.
She could be described as outgoing, confident, adventurous. All the things that make for a strong-willed little soul, which can be difficult to deal with at times, but I wouldn’t have her any other way!
In a world where females are taking back their rights and looking for equality, this is all fantastic. But sometimes I wonder if people are taking it too far?
Why do we insist on labelling literally everything and everyone? I don’t want to be labelled as a feminist, just like I never want to be labelled as anything else. I am human, not a jar.
That doesn’t make me anti-equality.
My daughter is a very little human, who doesn’t know the ways of the world just yet, who I need to protect and make sure she is comfortable in her little world.
I am all for equality, but that’s exactly what we miss out on when we push it further and further, thriving off powerful slogans that I, for one, see as unnecessary just to make a point. Every individual has the right to be who they want to be.
Be straight, be gay, be transsexual, be bisexual, the list could go on but do we really need to constantly obsess over putting people in labelled boxes?
Do we need to wear said clothing just to scream at people “I WANT TO BE EQUAL, BUT BETTER”?
I want my daughter to be equal, but I don’t want her to be better. I want her to be the best kind of her she can be, feel comfortable in her skin and live the life she wants to.
So, for now, I focus on watching my little girl blossom, encourage her free will, let her express herself whether that’s wanting to wear a multicoloured crazy outfit in public, or wanting to play with every toy car when she hits parent and toddler group.
Instead of feeding into trends and seeing how many movements we can belong to, we need to empower each other. We need to spread equality by looking to the everyday women in your life, rather than the women in the music videos or on TV.
Look to your mother, sister, daughter, and all your friends who strive for everyday goodness. That’s what makes equality and that’s what I will be teaching my daughter.